Wellness

Wellness to me is a lot more than simply looking at health. It is a whole lifestyle based around balance and keeping our body, mind and soul ‘well’. On my health and wellness journey facing so many health adversities and essentially living with invisible disability, I have come to associate health with more the medical and scientific approaches. And wellness as more of the natural holistic approaches. Wellness is about positive Life Balance and Health is about our body.

In many cases the health industry is so inundated by the medical industry which is set up to prolong life and associated weightloss industries as an example which constantly tell you there is something wrong with you that needs to be fixed. I find a lot of good but also so much in a lot of the medical industry can be disempowering for us. While wellness is more focused on our quality of life, being happy in our health and wellness choices and living a balanced life so that we make the most of everyday. Combining the two positively is empowering.

It is important we get to choose our wellness journey.

If I decide I don’t like what a medical practitioner has said and it doesn’t resonate with me, I can choose whether or not to take that advice and get that script filled. Or I can get a 2nd opinion, research more myself, go to a blood analysis naturopath, or other alternative types of healing.

There is never just one way.

When it comes to our own life we have the right to live it the way we choose. Put into our bodies what we choose. Make decisions that are empowering for us. We are not just a number and I for one refuse to be treated like one. We are all valuable human beings, we are all valid, we have a voice and we deserve to use it. Especially when sticking up for our own wellness.

Wellness

Wellness to me is a lot more than simply looking at health. It is a whole lifestyle based around balance and keeping our body, mind and soul ‘well’. On my health and wellness journey facing so many health adversities and essentially living with invisible disability, I have come to associate health with more the medical and scientific approaches. And wellness as more of the natural holistic approaches. Wellness is about positive life balance and health is about our body.

It is important we get to choose our wellness journey.

If I decide I don’t like what a medical practitioner has said and it doesn’t resonate with me, I can choose whether or not to take that advice and get that script filled. Or I can get a 2nd opinion, research more myself, go to a blood analysis naturopath, or other alternative types of healing.

There is never just one way.

When it comes to our own life we have the right to live it the way we choose. Put into our bodies what we choose. Make decisions that are empowering for us. We are not just a number and I for one refuse to be treated like one. We are all valuable human beings, we are all valid, we have a voice and we deserve to use it. Especially when sticking up for our own wellness.

Zoe Bliss Watson video, Zoe's health story
Zoe Bliss Watson video, Zoe's health story

Fibromyalgia

In my 30’s after living with a lot of mysterious ongoing pain, I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia dating back to the age of 15. I was so excited to have a diagnoses as I thought ‘great I can now find a cure’. Nope. I was told there’s nothing much I can do, try to exercise (when I was in so much pain I could barely get out of bed) that it’s a life sentence, I can try dietary changes, but essentially it is my body telling me I’m in more pain than I am actually in. It is fake pain. That is what I was told. What was I meant to do with that exactly?

When I researched it was autoimmune. Then it wasn’t. Then it was again. Honestly there was hardly any information on the subject that was empowering and helpful. I didn’t even know how to explain it to my friends and family. It was about 2013 and not many doctors I went to knew anything they just looked it up and did what the computer told them in treating me. Some people told me of doctors who specialised but it took months to get in and they were so far away and I could hardly even drive. It was horrible.

Unable to find much information about fibromyalgia in Australia, I joined FB groups and read about people who were as miserable as I was. It was helpful for about 10 days then I just couldn’t handle the negative energy, the constant talking about pretty hardcore pain medications and all their side effects and the often very valid whingeing. It was depressing. Like becoming a part of an external pain body.

Over time I have found different doctors who know something about fibromyalgia but not a lot of treatments worked. I tried the crazy pain meds reluctantly when I was at my worse and felt like I was on heroin. Not for me. Besides I thought if it was wrong signals of pain in my body how were these meant to help?

After years of getting worse not better I pulled away from it all and rested my body and mind. I researched, spoke to people, tried CBD oil which helped for a while. Used a mild pain killer and got to know my body. I started to recognise the different types of pain and was able to self treat them. I realised if I got weekly massages it really helped but more than that could be too much. I also realised that if I started to get stressed my body would react hyper vigilantly. I have a sensitive system and rather than fight my body and her reactions, I started to honour her and learn. I stopped trying the big stuff and focussed on the little stuff. And slowly over time I have started to get better, be able to manage the flareups and treat my body with love and care. I got out of the medical grind focusing on symptoms as it wasn’t helping me at all. I took my power back.

Every day I am learning more about my body, about this illness and how I can manage my own body effectively. It is truly different for everybody. Fibromyalgia and a lot of similar invisible illness are a clump of symptoms that could actually mean so many different things. So rather than eliminating what it could be which can take forever (& so far to no avail). I have created space, met my beautiful body where she is at. Tapped into her intuitively. Made friends with my mental health and stopped ignoring how I feel. And it is working..

I am no expert I don’t have a huge amount to share, but I do want to use this website to share my experiences, as I know it helps. The bad days with a fibro flareup suuuuuccckkkk. People who are not chronically ill do not understand. It overwhelms every facet of our life and the pain takes the joy out of the simplest things. But we are worthy, valid and our lives are important even when we don’t feel like they are. To live with fibromyalgia is to be a survivor.

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Chronic Fatigue

Unable to get up and have a shower. Unable to meet up with friends. Unable to go for a walk along the beach. Unable to cook a proper meal. Unable to participate in life fully. Feeling hopeless. Chastising myself for being lazy. Getting out of bed then getting straight back in again. Having to rest after having a shower. Heartbreak over lost connections and not showing up. Feeling separate from the world. True heartache and loneliness. Wondering how my vivacious personality and amazing life have ended up here.

Every day can present itself differently with Chronic Fatigue. It's the weirdest thing. An invisible illness. An invisible disability. A short road to depression. A feeling of hopelessness. My mind willing me to do things and my body feeling like it is filled with cement not vibrant blood.

The only thing you can do with this illness is be really really kind to yourself, forgive others for not understanding. Forgive yourself for not understanding. Love hard any way you can and realise you are not alone and you are worthy of your own love and understanding and from others. As much as we feel separate with this chronic bizarre illness, we are not. We are part of humanity and our bodies are trying their best. Sometimes it passes and we get in a great day. Those moments in life are what we live for..

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Migraine

There is no joy in chronic migraine. The pain is beyond what humans should have to bare on a regular basis. Everything goes black. Except for the smallest piece of light or noise that is like lightning piercing the black with more overwhelming searing pain. This pain is too great for me to ‘go into’ to try and heal in the moment. It takes everything from me in the immediate and renders me completely useless.

The nausea is overwhelming. The head literally feels like it is about to explode. The body goes limp and lifeless. You hope to sleep but rarely can, prolonging the torture.

People who don’t have migraines, mostly assume it’s just a bad headache. It’s not.

Those of us who have experienced chronic migraine where it happens over and over and over again, start to feel like we are losing our minds. It is not a life we want to keep living. It is that bad.

I started getting migraine 6 months after a car accident.
It shocked me.
It affected my life in every way.
I had to suffer in silence with no one to take care of me.
I tried a unique red light treatment over 8 months that was a lot of effort but didn’t help very much, then I moved to Bali.

Slowly I started to get better as I did the work and learnt about my body. I made drastic changes in my life like moving to another country allowing me to afford help around the house and I started my own business. Then I had to be honest with myself and others and talk about my limitations and ask for help and just do my best.

I researched, joined the online migraine world summit, spoke to friends who suffered. I found a medication that worked. I worked out the signs of when I was getting a migraine and learnt how to manage it with taking small amounts of medication at the first possible signs rather than massive amounts trying to get rid of it at it’s worst.

Over 10+ years I am still managing chronic migraines but my life is much better. They are no longer in control. Most of the time.

Everybodies Migraine experience is different. When anyone tells you they have a migraine, please don’t simply assume they have a bad headache. Instead assume they are completely debilitated, in more pain that you can ever imagine, they won’t feel good for days and that they need your love not judgement.

I don’t know exactly how or why we get migraine and again its different for everyone, but they literally feel like demons have taken over your head and body. It is horrifically horrible and I send so much love to anybody who has to suffer through migraines at any time.

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Invisible Illness

Living with invisible illness is very isolating. For me it turned me from a vivacious, energetic, vibrant, highly social and active person. To a homebody, with a rather stagnant lifestyle, no energy and introverted. I have found a new life reality that was initially very hard to adjust to. Not unlike the experience many people felt going into lockdown during a pandemic. From shock and disbelief to slowly understanding this is a new reality and not knowing how long it will last, to accepting the change and learning to find the good in the present moment.

I work very hard with my mental health not to see myself as a victim with invisible illness. Sometimes it is impossible and you sink into the pain and loss, while other times I can even see the benefits of having become more aware of my body and celebrate the freedoms I have created in my life to cater to my needs.

Invisible illness made me get out of the grind of everyday life and has shown me I can still be successful designing my life in a different way. It is not in my nature to concede defeat but I must say that has happened many times with many a breakdown moment.

I didn’t become a mother due to invisible illness and I rarely go to social events or keep up with the majority of my friendships. But I did use it to change my life and for that I am thankful.

Now I live a new health reality. One that others cannot see. I had to make peace with this knowing that others lack of understanding doesn’t define me. Knowing that none of us really understand what another person is going through. Though this goes to a whole new level with invisible illness.

I learnt to still have a voice and be honest despite the inability for others to understand. I have learnt to be a lot more compassionate and empathetic to others and myself and my body. Kindness is my love language when it comes to managing invisible illness. It has helped heal me the most out of everything. Being kind to myself mentally, physically and emotionally has helped me function at a much higher level.

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Chronic Pain

The lowest points in my life have been when I have felt defeated by chronic pain. Sometimes these have been moments. Other times they have been weeks even months of depression with only fleeting moments of happiness. Feeling depressed due to chronic pain is a weird body dynamic for me. I am not a depressed person. But when the pain is relentless then surrender leads to feelings of hopelessness and the depression kicks in until the pain subsides.

Really bad chronic pain means that you have really bad pain for a long long time. I actually don’t remember a life without pain. I do remember a more active life with a lot less pain. Mixed with those periods that were so overwhelming I would be sobbing on the floor in defeat, not wanting to live any more. The memories of pain are also real in living with chronic pain.

Usually these lowest periods would then bring about change which is weird in itself. Maybe surrender and pure anguish is the key. Or maybe it is just my journey and my pattern. I do know that having a voice and not supressing my pain does help me a lot. Whether I write poetry, a book, or crazy scribblings of anguish that I rip up and throw away..

When you have chronic pain you can’t let your frustrations out at the gym or a run, or kick boxing or those physical ways I used to let it out. Now it is trapped inside me in a harsh relentless prison. Until I write. And even then it is a very passive release when I would rather just rip it out of me.

Chronic pain is like a very horrible monster on your back. It rips away at your flesh and you can feel it chewing. You know it will keep you alive so it can keep eating you. You have to numb yourself to the pain and no matter how much you try you can’t get rid of it. It is heavy. It has power over you. It slows you down. You have to try and ignore it, live life more passively and not upset it so it doesn’t start ripping you open but instead nibbles away staying satisfied keeping the pain minimal.

Anything you do that is ‘big’ ie causing stress in your life or even the big celebrations or traveling, the monster rips into you with a vengeance. So the secret is to keep quiet and not upset the pain monster… Very much like an abusive relationship but you are treading on eggshells with an unknown monster that seems to hide so it cannot be found every time you go to the doctors.

One day I will find out how to rip it off my back. For now I am trying to slowly disconnect it to make it easier when that time comes.

Healing trauma is a big part of disconnecting or healing the pain. In small parts. Being present with it. Understanding it in time. Being kind and compassionate with yourself and realising that a trauma reaction in the body is very real and needs to be released.

The pain monster I believe is made up of all our traumas. And as we release and heal them bit by bit, slowly the monster will become unstuck enough to rip it off like a bandaid, or until it falls off by itself.

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Eating Disorders

I had an eating disorder at age 14 – 15. I am a survivor of bulimia. At the time I felt out of control. I had no outlet. I had no one to speak to. I was putting myself under immense pressure to do well at school so I could escape a reality my parents had designed for their lives, but it wasn’t for me. The school I went to was small and not a good academic school and I felt all odds were against me. And I was right about this but I was never listened to. I had no tools in my emotional toolbox about how to handle this.

So I binged on cereal most nights when everyone had gone to bed. I tiptoed quietly around the kitchen finding it unbelievable no one could hear me in the quite small house with squeaky floors. I then tiptoed to the toilet off the laundry and very close to my parents bedroom but a small confined space that somehow felt comforting.

I put my fingers down my throat until my eyes were streaming with tears, I had all sorts of mucous being released from my stomach and burning my throat, until the big hoorah moment of release came and the mashed food poured out of my body.

I felt relief. I felt satisfied. I felt alive. I felt disgusting. I felt exhausted. Then I washed my mouth out. Then I slept.

When I changed my life and circumstances and found other ways to gain control over my own existence and started taking my power back in other ways, that’s when I stopped.

It was a coping mechanism and I found new ways of coping. I understand how people can become so trapped in this and it is like a drug. Especially when mixed with self loathing and feeling so detached from their bodies and with body dysmorphia. I send you so much love and beautiful healing energy so that you can see yourself as amazing as you really truly are.

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Healing

I believe as humans on earth at this time, for many of us our journey is about healing. More than ever we have amazing knowledge through science, amazing medical tools and techniques, amazing doctors and health practitioners … yet we are as a race seemingly sicker than ever. Life is prolonged more than ever before but at what cost? Quality of life and living with illnesses seem to be an epidemic whether these are physical, emotional or mental and everything else in between. We seem to be living in a fake freedom to do with our wellness.

We are given less and less information or time and attention by doctors and simply told to treat symptoms. This is clearly not working and I for one feel that we have so much untapped intelligence within us in our intuition, ancient healing techniques that are ignored and more information than ever that has been lost or suppressed. It is time for us to take our power back and be responsible for our own healing and not just blindly follow doctors' or therapists' orders anymore. If something doesn’t feel right then go in another direction.

Healing is personal for everybody but generally always includes the following steps . . .

Awareness that something needs to be healed. This can be anything in your life that is not working for you. For me it was my body telling me something was very wrong and a car accident that exacerbated things further and bought to light in a big way that I needed to make changes. Often we are sent little signals along the way in our life that we are out of balance and the sooner we listen the sooner we can heal.

Taking Responsibility Our bodies and our lives are our own and our own responsibility. Once we realise this it allows us to take more ownership of the process and not simply flailing about in the wind of life. We may not have full control but in most things we have choice. I learnt at an early age that others don’t always have our best interests at heart. Only we have that in this life as our lives are our lives. It seems so obvious but just look at the areas we give our power away … the food we eat do we know what's in it? The medicines we take and the vaccines we give to children. Do we know there are side effects that can effect some people more than others? Or do we blindly just take them and trust the govt and companies that make these that they are for our best interest not for their monetary gain? … The technology we sign up for does this help or hinder our lives. In my experience it does both but we need to be aware of what is good for us and what is not. And we need to take ownership of our own consumption be it information, drugs, food, things we spray into the air at home, perfumes etc. A lot of it can effect our physical and emotional health. If someone sprays perfume around me that for me is an instant migraine. So what toxins are in these perfumes? What toxins are in the air through farming techniques? Do we even know how to breathe properly anymore? What can we do to best help our own health and our own lives? Again the choices and outcomes are different for everybody but the responsibility is ours to take.

Seek Help This can be through research (books, podcasts, information gathering), healers, speaking to someone, anything that resonates with you. For me it was all of the above throughout my life. Early on I ignored things and they just come out through behaviours, self sabotage and self hate. But I didn’t realise these were signs that I needed to heal. Whenever we feel uncomfortable, out of balance or things just keep going wrong, then many times this could be an opportunity to heal.

Do the Work Once you have found your help it’s a step by step process to keep doing the work. It takes work. A lot of work. But it’s good work, so empowering and really interesting. It is a chance to truly get to know ourselves and be active not passive in our own lives. Once we start doing the work things will start to change and we can change with them. Maybe a health practitioner is no longer working for us. So we can take time to feel in our bodies, hearts and minds whether we need to keep seeing them. We can listen to our bodies. They are miraculous and they communicate with us. Our minds can be rather conditioned through simply growing up (parents teachings, religion, books we read, what we watch on tv over and over again, education, what leaders in our friendship groups tell us). But as adults we can make up our own minds and change anything or any beliefs that no longer work for us. I found inner child work through different practitioners and done in different ways extremely healing. Especially for Trauma. Trauma healing is unique to every one of us and trauma can be related to anything and can even happen as babies. Which is why it is so important in this life that we heal, so we can grow and learn and teach and live more fully.

Authenticity As we get to know ourselves, our own natures, as we grow through our healing and as we own our own stuff. Then we can become more and more authentic and aware of the energy around us. Everything on this planet is energy and as such we all affect each other. There is power in that. There is power within us. Once we find our voice healing becomes automatic. Like learning a sport we practice the same thing over and over and over and over. We tweak and tweak and try new things specific to our body. Different things work for different people in the same sport as our bodies and minds are not the same. Authenticity is working out what works for you so that you can win against yourself and create more positive energy in the world through healing. As we heal ourselves we automatically heal others, as they are attached to our energy.

Keep healing Never stop. There is always something to heal and mostly we learn this through other humans and the way they trigger us. It doesn’t feel like it at the time but this is a blessing. Not something to be ashamed of or make excuses. But to own, apologise, become aware and make changes. When you want something in life, when we want to heal then we can attract it simply by putting our energy there. Like when you decide you want to buy a yellow car and start seeing yellow cars everywhere. Or when we are thinking of someone and then the phone rings or they contact us somehow. It is basically the law of physics and the more we look for it the more we see it. It is quite beautiful and so amazing when we learn how to flow with this energy in life.

One of the things I am still healing is resistance. I have come a long way but I still naturally resist help, which can stop the flow that I have attracted into my life. So I am constantly learning to trust. It is different for all of us and our healing is our own.

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